“Does this work for me?”: a question from a man, asked of himself.
“Is this working for you?”: a question from a man, asked of a woman.
The first question happens in the presence of one.
The second question happens in the presence of two.
The first question happens with a self-focus in mind.
The second question happens with an other-centeredness in mind.
In a good marriage, I believe, there is no room for a bull-blown maverick.
In the battles, it is good to have someone watch your back. And the battles do come.
In a marriage, there is a need for wildness: a redemptive wildness.
Here is a paradox.
Amidst woman’s beauty, her feminity, her elegance, her tenderness, her gentleness, there is a legitimate wildness: again, a redemptive wildness.
Hidden within a wilderman, his strength, his calloused hands, his warrior spirit, there is a legitimate gentleness: a redemptive, masculine gentleness.