My fifth grade teacher returns from his errand, bursts through the door, crazy eyes, searching each one of us for the ringleader for our prank: “WHAT … is the MEANING OF THIS?!! Things happen, it was a long time ago, and we lived through it. But the question has transcended our years on the planet: (a variation) “What does this mean?”
Other end of the spectrum, a philosophy professor. I brought in a book I was reading (by Kahil Gibran) … wanted his opinion. He looked at the book, paused for a good minute, and I knew he was not impressed. “Sit down. (pause) In philosophy, I ask three questions: 1) Is this true?, 2) What facts support this?, and 3) What does this mean?”
‘Never forgot that discussion. I focus on male depression with the work I do . . . And with the multifaceted pieces of male depression, this necessary question comes up:
“What does this mean?” I will once again reference this work: I Don’t Want To Talk About It by Terrence Real. Excellent read, if you have any interest in male depression. Because of my commitment, or eccentric desire, to think outside the box, I have thought of other metaphors for male depression. A short ride, but go ahead and fasten your seat-belts: we’re going outside the box.
I was thinking of Igor, but I get Igor and Eeyore confused. At times I think of Igor as a small mule with an abnormal growth on one of his shoulders, who works for a severe introvert, a temperamental bear … I found out that it was not a mule with a bowling ball-shaped growth on his shoulder. It was a human being working for a guy named Frank … not a bear. I think of Igor as an unfortunate gentleman who experienced a great deal of isolation, which is part of the whole depression dance. Igor has some performance issues and he goes to great lengths to become accepted. He has a crush on a gal, Esmerelda, and she doesn’t really love him, but she doesn’t have the substance to tell the poor boy … Things get messed up real quick.
In fact, in one story he goes by “Igor”; and in another story he goes by “Quasimodo“, the Latin words “quasi” and “modo” also mean “almost” and “the standard measure” respectively. As such, Quasimodo is ‘almost the standard measure’ of a human being.’ Anyway, Esmerelda dies … and Quasimodo kills his boss who is in reality “Frollo“, which should NOT be confused with “Frodo”.
Let me add some words that might tie all this together. Igor and / or Quasimodo are given a great weight to bear, which . . . for me …. symbolizes a number of things, possibly depression. Igor / Quasimodo deal with isolation, stigma, great sadness, and anger at times. Those are just a few items that intersect (at times) with male depression. I used the term “Eclectic View” because I do believe that the men who fight depression effectively MUST think outside the box and think from an eclectic perspective: CBT, Rogerian, Existential, NLP, RET … etc., In addition to thinking with responsible eclecticism, a depressive MUST acquire redemptive humor. Oh, as for Eeyore? He had an exchange with a bear that struck me:
“Good morning, Pooh Bear,” said Eeyore gloomily. “If it is a good morning,” he said. “Which I doubt,” said he. / “Why, what’s the matter?” “Nothing, Pooh Bear, nothing. We can’t all, and some of us don’t. That’s all there is to it.” / “Can’t all what?” said Pooh, rubbing his nose. / “Gaiety. Song-and-dance. Here we go round the mulberry bush.”
Yes … an eclectic view.
- “Good morning, Pooh Bear,” said Eeyore gloomily. “If it is a good morning,” he said. “Which I doubt,” said he. (afeedersdigest.wordpress.com)