Sitting in the Jeep with one of my kiddos, waiting on the Mrs. and our other kiddo to finish up in the Dr.’s office (for some non-crisis stuff) … I did not know I was on the verge of getting a dose of “Fun Facts” to know & learn from my daughter. She had one of these kids’ magazines, and started reading out loud one joke after another. Then she gets to the “Fun Facts”.
“Hey, Dad, do you want to hear some fun facts?”
“What color is the house of the President in Argentina?
“Don’t know, Babe.”
“Yeah! … Here is another one. Do you know what the population is for Tilt Cove, in Newfoundland, Canada?”
“No, I do not. What is the population for Tilt Cove, in Newfoundland, Canada?”
“Are you serious?”
“Yeah, I’m serious.”
“No, you’re not. You’re just pulling my leg.”
“No, Dad, I’m serious. The population for Tilt Cove in Newfoundland, Canada is five. No joke.”
Tilt Cove, Newfoundland caught my attention. Here are some pictures of Tilt Cove, Newfoundland, Canada.
The Home of Francis Williams, Tilt Cove / 1910. http://www.heritage.nf.ca/environment/williams_before.html
This next picture of the Williams House is different, due to an avalanche that hit the house in 1912, March 11th (photo credit: The Rooms Provincial Archives: Smith Family Collection: A 24-98 … http://archivalmoments.ca/2012/03/killer-avalanche-hits-tilt-cove/).
“Tilt Cove is a town located southeast of Baie Verte on Notre Dame Bay. The post or Way office was established in 1869. The population was 1,370 in 1901 and 57 by 1956. It has a population of 5 as of 2011 according to Statistics Canada, but another source gives the population as 7.” (I always find good information on Wikipedia: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tilt_Cove). I hope you enjoy a little reminder, from time to time, of places beyond our little world. It is good to get a different perspective. Maybe I can get to Tilt Cove one day. Maybe not: there are some other places that would come first.
I am hoping for a better year:
Of course I am hoping for a better year; and, of course … you are hoping for a better year, right? Tell me I’m right. Tell me you are hoping for a better year. That’s what we do, right? We hope. ‘Cannot stop hoping. If we don’t hope, we die … mainly inside. If we quit hoping, it may be obvious on the outside; but death is really happening on the inside, even though it is a gradual process.
of course we are hoping for a better year. If it is obvious, then WHY am I mentioning it? I bring this up because I am a firm believer in reminding each other of what is true, what is important, what is dynamic. I believe we need to talk to each other, face-to-face, phone calls, EMAILs, and … blogging, of course. There is that word again, “course”: a reminder to …
S t a y O n C o u r s e
Man Your Post
And, Hold On To Your Hat
Gentlemen, all of “this” is not just about us. This is about the people we love, the people we care about, the people who we will impact. The women in our lives; the sons, the daughters, our co-mentors, those we mentor, and those folks we will meet in 2014.
You really need to see these 10 pictures of mountain goats. Really on of the coolest posts I’ve seen in a while . . . on a blog, The Very Best Top 10.com
Man, do you feel weak? Speak. You won’t be redirected, no solutions expected.
Men seeking peace,
“Find your voice!”
Yet, be cautious with your choice.”
‘Makes sense, “Negativity … nonsense.”
Positive: the way to go, let your success show …
Show the world, show your friends … you are the one that shines and wins.
“So, please dear brother, keep your melancholy;
We are the winners, the strong and the jolly.”
FYI: Usually I don’t mind poems that rhyme, as long as it’s not my poem. But some things happen, beyond my control.
One definition of ambivalence, because it makes the word logical and digestible:
“Ambivalence . . . the existence of two mutually exclusive (any combination of) ideas, emotions, thoughts, realities.”
STEELY DAN lyrics, from the piece entitled “Deacon Blues”, come to mind:
“They got a name for the winners in the world
I want a name when I lose
They call Alabama the Crimson Tide
Call me Deacon Blues”
I am a firm believer in adages like:
- “Don’t let people pull you down …”;
- “Think negative things? You will experience negative things …”
- “You are responsible for your thoughts, your emotions, your actions …”
‘Got the picture?
Someone comes into your space, with heaviness, pain, anger, sadness. It is your responsibility to set up and maintain your boundaries. Reality: you may experience some tension:
- Desire to empower;
- A murky mix of wanting to help, and unhealthy guilt for this person’s pain / obligation to “rescue”;
- Someone once said (I don’t know who) “It is what it is.” It is of profound importance to find the “what” that “it” … “is”.
More about the tension that you may, or may not, feel. St. John of the Cross wrote a piece
(sixteenth century) entitled “Dark Night of the Soul“. A great writer (passed away in 1997) named Dr. Gerald May
wrote a book based on the work by St. John of the Cross, Dark Night of the Soul. Terrence Real wrote a book entitled I Don’t Want to Talk About It (one of the best books on male depression I have ever read).