Fears of Wildermen

Some men fear …

Not being known;

Being known;

Thus, some men desire to be known and …

at the same time … fear being known.

Men fear being ridiculed.

Men fear condescension.

Men fear isolation and … at the same time … desire isolation.

Men fear pain.

Men fear intimacy.

Men fear loss, and defeat; men fear being shamed; men fear being bullied; men fear being backed in a corner. Image below, from the movie “Braveheart” http://www.evanrichards.com.


Men are called to deal with fear, with honor, with the right timing, the right strategy.
Image right, from the movie “Argo”, http://www.geckoandfly.com.  Men fear being betrayed.  Men fear their anger.  Men fear living … not dying. Men fear failure.  Men, at the same time do not fear failure.  Men fear insignificance. 

“Courage is not living without fear.  Courage is being scared to death and doing the right thing anyway.”  (Movie, “Argo”)


Winning Battles, Men

Don’t worry.  You are tougher than hell.  There is a substance within you that makes the demons tremble.  True, they mess with you.  They mess with me, too.  That is one reason conflict happens.  If the battle gets bloody, that’s okay.  You will listen to your heart, and the wisdom that belongs to you.  You may find yourself in a battlefield, no one in sight.  The ground’s ripped up, ugliness in the trenches.  You will wonder, “Where are the other guys?”  You may not see them.

(Image below: ecogentleman.com)


They are out there, somewhere.  Regardless of where they are, you know where YOU are.  And you are a warrior.  What else are you going to do?  You press on!  You own up to your pain, you’re wounds, your fatigue.  You consider that you are afraid.  You feel it in your stomach, and your mind is racing.  And you consider your courage.  Its there, in your heart and soul.  If you come across some enemies, you might be out-numbered.  But, you are still you: a force to be reckoned with.  Better men than you and I have died in battle.  It is not a dishonorable thing to die with courage and nobility and honor, knowing that you went down fighting.  A smaller warrior said to his larger adversary, “You very well may get the best of me.  But by the time it is over, you will know that you have been hit.”  Beware of the wrath of a patient man, when his anger manifests in an honorable way.  You will see strength, then.  And you might want to stand back.  

Men and Butch Cassidy, Sundance Kid

There was a group of fellas called the “Hole-in-the-Wall Gang”.


El Grupo Pirén auspicia la muestra que explora...
El Grupo Pirén auspicia la muestra que explora las andanzas de Butch Cassidy en Chubut (Photo credit: sitemarca)

A couple of wild men, Butch Cassidy accompanied by the Sundance Kid had pulled the hoodlums together.   Paul Newman played the role of Butch Cassidy and Robert Newman played the role of the Sundance Kid in a movie: “Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid”.

Cover of "Butch Cassidy and the Sundance ...
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Butch and Sundance robbed trains to pay bills and live a wild life … and this did not seem to be a problem until  a number of guys decided that it wasn’t okay for them to have all the fun, spending all the money … They formed a public  service organization called a posse, which is NOT (by the way, to clarify) the plural of possums.

This fraternity, or public service club, became relentless, chasing them everywhere they went.  Butch ran the problem through a black market consultant, and the idea came up of going to Bolivia.  And the two guys lived happily ever after.  I think they both found some women who straightened them out.

The last two sentences are not true, based on my research.  I just felt like re-writing the story, and then realized that I cannot do that with a clear conscience.

Once in Bolivia, things are looking up until somebody figures out they are famous outlaws (don’t ask me how they came to this conclusion).   As a result, about 100 soldiers of the Bolivian cavalry show up, surround the place, to take down the  notorious ‘Bandidos Yanquis’. (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0064115/synopsis?)

“A gunfight happens, Butch and Sundance are wounded and they talk about where they will be going next, realizing that their time is up (Butch suggests Australia, where at least they speak English). They dash out of the house in a futile attempt to get to their horses. The image freezes and slowly turns to a sepia tone tintype while a voice is heard ordering: “Fuego!” (Fire), followed by the sound of hundreds of rifles being fired in three consecutive volleys…. ”  (http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0064115/synopsis?)

What does this have to do with this blog?  Well, I guess the wildness of Butch and Sundance reflects one type of “wildness of men.”  Unfortunately, we cannot always get away from our past.  Fortunately, there are different ways to live out our wildness as men.  Not only different ways: but better ways.

That’s it for now.