Man, do you feel weak? Speak. You won’t be redirected, no solutions expected.
Men seeking peace,
“Find your voice!”
Yet, be cautious with your choice.”
‘Makes sense, “Negativity … nonsense.”
Positive: the way to go, let your success show …
Show the world, show your friends … you are the one that shines and wins.
“So, please dear brother, keep your melancholy;
We are the winners, the strong and the jolly.”
FYI: Usually I don’t mind poems that rhyme, as long as it’s not my poem. But some things happen, beyond my control.
One definition of ambivalence, because it makes the word logical and digestible:
“Ambivalence . . . the existence of two mutually exclusive (any combination of) ideas, emotions, thoughts, realities.”
STEELY DAN lyrics, from the piece entitled “Deacon Blues”, come to mind:“They got a name for the winners in the world
I want a name when I lose
They call Alabama the Crimson Tide
Call me Deacon Blues”
I am a firm believer in adages like:
- “Don’t let people pull you down …”;
- “Think negative things? You will experience negative things …”
- “You are responsible for your thoughts, your emotions, your actions …”
‘Got the picture?
Someone comes into your space, with heaviness, pain, anger, sadness. It is your responsibility to set up and maintain your boundaries. Reality: you may experience some tension:
- Desire to empower;
- A murky mix of wanting to help, and unhealthy guilt for this person’s pain / obligation to “rescue”;
- Someone once said (I don’t know who) “It is what it is.” It is of profound importance to find the “what” that “it” … “is”.
More about the tension that you may, or may not, feel. St. John of the Cross wrote a piece
(sixteenth century) entitled “Dark Night of the Soul“. A great writer (passed away in 1997) named Dr. Gerald May
wrote a book based on the work by St. John of the Cross, Dark Night of the Soul. Terrence Real wrote a book entitled I Don’t Want to Talk About It (one of the best books on male depression I have ever read).